Episode #40: Success is Everywhere (And If You're Not Seeing It, This Episode Will Turn That Around)

Hello, my friends. Welcome back to Design youn Dream Life. I am Kara. I am your host.

And today we are talking about something that I think is going to completely shift how you see the world around you and your own potential for success. And bear with me if I sound a little off. I am honestly suffering from jet lag recovery. Honestly, it's just like, my goodness, it is kicking my butt.

I keep going to bed so early and then I get up so early and I'm like, okay, this is day three. Yeah. So I'm really. I'm gonna try and nap this afternoon and I'm gonna try and stamp later tonight so that I can try and get back on track.

So give me some grace. If I fumble over some words more than normal or, I don't know, I just say some stupid things. Please forgive me. I am lacking the sleep.

And I'm going to call it Jet Lag brain. That is what I'm going to call it. But anyways, today we're talking about success. And success is literally everywhere, my friends.

And I mean everywhere. But here's the thing.

If you are not seeing it, if you are stuck in that place where it feels like everyone else is winning except you, this episode is specifically for you because I'm about to show you exactly where to look and how to create that success mindset that honestly changes everything.

So let me first start by sharing some real examples of success that I am seeing right now, because I want you to understand that we are living in such an incredible time. Honestly, it is the best time to be an entrepreneur and especially a digital business owner.

Now, I have one client who in the past three months has launched about three different. Maybe four, three or four different low ticket funnels. We are spending about 10 to 11k on ads this month alone. And we're doing over 30k in revenue.

Actually might be closer to 40k. Maybe it's in between 30 and 40. So that's a 3 to 4x return on ad spend, which is absolutely incredible in today's market.

I have been talking to people lately who are absolutely crushing it with webinars. And I am talking about in the B2B space where everybody seems to be saying that webinars are dead.

And these people, they are getting really affordable leads and making these evergreen systems incredibly profitable, my friends. So profitable. And I honestly just heard about a woman who sold her Pilates business for over a hundred million dollars.

She had a hundred locations, and that was her goal from day one. She built exactly what she envisioned. Success is happening Everywhere, in every business model that you can even imagine.

But I also want to acknowledge something important here. I know that there are also people who are struggling right now.

I know that there are entrepreneurs who are looking at these examples and thinking, well, that's great for them. What about me? Where's my success? And that's exactly what we're going to address today.

Because success is not just about the big numbers or viral moments or even the seven figure launches. Success comes in all, all shapes and sizes and more importantly, it's available to you regardless of where you are starting from.

Here's what I've learned after going from bankruptcy to building multiple successful businesses. Success isn't just about what happens to you. It is about what you create, my friends.

And creating success starts with your mindset long before it ever shows up in your bank account. So let's talk about the mindset that creates success. Because this is where everything begins. First, successful people see success everywhere.

They are not blind to it, they are not resentful of it. And they're definitely not dismissing it as lucky or not meant for people like me.

They see every success story as evidence that success is possible, including for them. And I do this all the time.

So when I see one of my clients doing 40k months with low tickets funnels, I don't think, well, she has something I don't have. I think this is proof that low ticket funnels still work beautifully when they are done right.

And this is evidence for all my other clients that this model is viable. It is proof that it can still work. When I hear about the Pilates empire selling for nine figures, I don't think must be nice.

I think this is incredible proof that you can build massive success in any industry when you have a clear vision and execute consistently. Every success story around you is actually evidence for your own potential success. But you have to train your brain to see it that way.

Second, successful people define success for themselves instead of letting other people define it for them. This is huge. Because one of the fastest ways to feel unsuccessful is to measure yourself against someone else's definition of winning.

Maybe success for you isn't a hundred million dollar exit. Maybe it's replacing your corporate salary so you can work from home with your kids. Maybe it's building a business that funds your travel lifestyle.

Maybe it's creating something that gives you complete creative freedom. Maybe it's building generational wealth for your entire family.

All of those are successes, all of those are valid and all of those are worth building towards. I remember when I first started my business after getting laid off from a CEO position.

I compared myself to people who were doing million dollar launches. And I thought because of my experience, I should instantly have that. And I was making myself miserable because I wasn't there yet.

But you know what was successful for me at that time? Landing my first client on that boat in Toronto. Making enough to pay my mortgage. Building something that was mine. Success is personal.

And the sooner you get clear on what it actually means for you, the sooner you can start creating it at a whole new level. Third, successful people focus on what they can control instead of what they can't.

This is probably the biggest difference I see between people who eventually break through and people who stay stuck. You cannot control the economy. You cannot control your competition.

You cannot control whether your first funnel is immediately profitable or whether your first webinar fills up and sells out. You cannot control how fast your audience grows or how quickly people buy from you. But you can control your consistency.

You can control your commitment to learning and improving. You can control how you respond when things don't go as planned. You can control whether you keep going or you give up.

And I will tell you this, some of my clients, they are the most graceful when it comes to the challenging times of when maybe profit is down or ads are tanking. And how they show up and how they play to win is incredible. And here's what I've noticed.

The people who focus obsessively on what they can control eventually create the success that they want. The people who focus on what they can't control stay stuck in frustration and victim mode.

So if you are not feeling successful right now, my friends, let's talk about some practical strategies for shifting that. Because I do not want to just give you mindset theory. I want to give you the tools that you can start using today.

So strategy number one, start documenting your wins, no matter how small. And I am serious about this. We are so conditioned to dismiss our own progress and focus on what's not working.

Did you publish a piece of content this week that's a win? Did you have a sales conversation even if that person didn't buy, that's a win. Did you choose to invest in yourself instead of staying stuck?

That, my friend, is a win. And I want you to keep a success journal every day.

Write down at least three things that went well, three things you accomplished, three pieces of evidence that you are moving in the right direction. Train your brain to look for what is working instead of what isn't.

Strategy number two, surround yourself with other people's success stories, but consume them strategically. So this means being intentional about who you follow, what you read, and how you interpret what you see.

So when you see someone else winning, practice thinking. That is amazing. And it's proof that success is possible in my industry too.

When you hear about someone's breakthrough, think, I wonder what I can learn from their journey that might help me stop consuming other people's success as entertainment and start consuming it as education and inspiration. Strategy number three, define what success means for you right now, not five years from now.

This is critical because if your only definition of success is some massive future outcome, you're going to feel unsuccessful for years. So what would success look like for you in the next 90 days? Maybe it's getting your first paying client.

Maybe it's launching your first product or launching a new product to your audience. Maybe it is consistently showing up on social media. Maybe it's simply not giving up.

When things get hard, create success milestones so that you can actually hit them while you're building towards that bigger vision and strategy. Number four, study success instead of just admiring it. When you see someone doing what you want, don't just think it must be nice. Get curious.

I am so curious. What are they doing that you're not doing? What did their journey actually look like? What can you learn from their approach?

I study my successful clients constantly. When someone has a breakthrough, I want to understand what are some of the things that contributed to it so I can help other people replicate it.

Success leaves clues, but you have to be looking for them. Strategy number five, never stop learning and growing. Successful people are always students.

They're always reading, always absorbing new ideas, always challenging their own thinking. Right now I am reading the incredible book called Change youe Paradigm, Change youe Life by Bob Proctor.

And there are some concepts in there that are just blowing my mind. But here's the thing. These are not new concepts for me. You guys. Now, I have read so many books of personal development and mindset over the years.

Sean and I have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on personal development. But it is still so powerful for me to read this and remember how powerful I truly am. Because honestly, you can lose it.

Like, if you don't use it, you'll lose it. And one of the key ideas in this book is, is that our paradigms are deeply held beliefs about how the world works.

So literally you create your reality. If you believe success is hard to come by, your brain will find evidence for that.

If you believe success is abundant and available, your brain will find evidence for that instead. The book talks about how most people live their entire lives operating from paradigms. And they don't even consciously choose.

They just inherited from their families or culture or past experiences. But successful people, they consciously examine and choose their paradigms.

And even though I know this stuff, even though I've studied Mindset for years, I still need these reminders. I still need to be intentional about examining my own beliefs and making sure that they are serving the vision I have for my life.

So ask yourself, what beliefs about success are you operating from? Are they serving you? Or are they limiting you?

Because changing your paradigm about what's possible for you might be the only thing that is standing between where you are now and where you want to be. So strategy number six, take action from where you are instead of waiting until you feel ready. This is so huge.

Successful people do not wait until they have the perfect confidence or perfect circumstances. They take imperfect action from imperfect starting points and figure it out along the way.

You do not need to feel successful to start acting successful. You do not need to have all the answers to start building something. You do not need to feel confident, to take confident actions.

Actions create confidence, my friends, not the other way around. So now let's talk about how to weather the storm when success doesn't feel like success yet.

Because this is really, for most of us, at some point of our journey, you might have already had a ton of success and you're on a downward spiral. Like everything is in cycles. You know, I. I say this like there's a season, there's. And it's a season, it too shall pass.

So first, I want you to remember that building anything worthwhile takes time. My clients doing 40k months or a hundred k months or 200k months, they did not start there. Right?

They started with zero audience, zero experience, and zero revenue, but they stayed consistent. They kept learning, they kept adjusting, and they kept going. That Pilates empire that sold for nine figures, that didn't happen overnight.

That was years of building, expanding, systemizing, and scaling. Your timeline might be different, but the principle is the same. Success is usually a gradual, not overnight, explosion.

Now, sometimes there's the hockey stick approach, which makes it seem. Seem like it's overnight.

So if you've ever seen the hockey stick approach, it's like you, you have the little scoop down and then you rocket ship up, right? And that makes it seem sometimes like an overnight success, but it's not really right now.

Second, I want you to focus on the process, not just the outcome. This is something I learned during my own journey from bankruptcy to multiple six figures and eventually building seven figures.

When I focused obsessively on how much money I was making, I made myself miserable. When I focused on becoming the kind of person who creates that success. Learning new skills, building better systems, developing the right mindset.

The results followed naturally. And third, reframe setbacks as valuable data instead of evidence that you're failing. That webinar didn't fill or the show up rate was horrible.

Data about your messaging or your audience. That funnel that didn't convert? Maybe it's data about your offer or that client who didn't say yes.

Successful people fail just as much, maybe even more than unsuccessful people. The difference is how they interpret and use those failures.

And finally, remember, your definition of success gets to evolve as you do what felt like a huge success, what felt like a huge success when I first started making enough to cover my basic expenses would feel small to me now, honestly. But that doesn't make it less valid or important. It was exactly the right success for who I was at that time.

Your version of success right now might look different than your version of success five years from now. And that is not only okay, it's exactly how it should be.

Here is what I want you to walk away from this episode Understanding Success is not a rare occurrence. It is not something that is rare that happens to other people.

Success is a natural result of of clear thinking, consistent action, and the determination to keep going when things get hard. Every person who has ever built something meaningful has gone through periods where success felt impossible.

And honestly, the difference between those who eventually break through and those who give up is simple. They just keep going anyways. They focused on what they could control. They celebrated those small wins they learned from setbacks.

They defined success for themselves and they trusted the process even when they couldn't see the outcome. You, my friend, have everything you need to create success in your life and in your business.

You do not need more talent, more connections, more luck, or any anything external. You need to commit to doing the internal work of building a successful mindset and then taking consistent action from that place.

Success is everywhere, my friends. It's happening all around you every single day. And your success story, it is not just possible, it is inevitable when you commit to creating it.

So start today. Document your wins. Define success for yourself. Take action from where you are and trust that your breakthrough is coming. Because it absolutely is.

Dream big dreams, my friends. And remember, you are not the exception to success. You. You are the rule. Have a great week. My friends and I will talk to you next week.